“Moving on doesn’t mean forgetting….moving on doesn’t mean the end of grief.” From a column on moving on from grief on a website called goodtherapy.org.
Like it or not, tomorrow just after 2 our time, someone’s going to kick a football and the Stampeders will be back doing what they do, after having the kind of week no team should have to endure. “I’m anxious to travel together as a group and play a football game,” says coach Dave Dickenson. “We understand that our team needs to be ready and live….our life.”
“It’s about remembering and honoring the one you loved while also embracing the beauty and fullness of the life you still get to live,” from that same column.
“It’s all learning, not really sure how to react.” says the coach.
At least no one on the team has to go at it alone. “We all feel that pain.” says Deron Mayo. “But it’s good to have such a supporting cast, such brothers, such people that express love for each other and put each other first. When you have that, these situations are not easy to deal with, but they’re easier.”
For some, it’ll be harder than it will be for others. “I was there,” recalls Jerome Messam, “I witnessed everything that happened. I was there holding him, trying to help him fight.”
“Only you can know when you are ready to move forward after your loss. Only you can decide what it means to let go or accept the loss you experienced. Only you can truly decide what it means to move on and move forward. Whatever that looks like for you, it is perfect and right.” Again from that same column.
Team leaders have spoken moving words. Silence at a candlelight vigil with players, fans, and strangers standing together spoke volumes. A team service honoured the family. Is it the end of the grieving process for Mylan Hicks? That’s that, let’s play football? No. But as Winston Churchill said, it’s the end of the beginning.